Being a wallflower has its perks — except for when you want to meet new people. Shy and quiet types might prefer to stay home with a good book, but it's healthy to branch out every once in a while, and a fun party is a great way to do it.
Before you wear your nails down to the cuticles at the mere thought of a shindig, perhaps a game plan will help you get you through the night. Besides, it's a lot more fun than getting more acquainted with your host's house pet.
It's time to move from being a fly on the wall to a social butterfly. Take a deep breath, because you're about to become the life of the party.
1. Mentally prepare yourself.
You're ready to have some fun -- and people are there to do the same. People are just as interested in you as you are in them, so take a deep breath and remind yourself that everyone is in the same boat.
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2. Have fun with your look.
Be comfortable, but trying something subtly new with your wardrobe or makeup will not only put you in a partying mood, but also might boost your confidence.
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3. Find a refuge.
Find a quiet place to go when you need to get away from the crowd. There's always an empty room -- even if it's the bathroom -- or even an area outside to go to get some peace.
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4. Take a break.
This means during and after the party. If you're feeling overwhelmed or drained halfway through, find your quiet spot to recharge. After the party, take a moment to unwind before turning in for the night.
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5. Don’t try to change your personality.
You don't need to adopt a different persona to enjoy a party. Just go with the flow.
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6. Have a buddy.
If you have a fellow wallflower friend, or even a small group of them, stick together for the night. Don't go through the needless stress of forcing yourself to work the room.
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7. Have a friend introduce you around.
If you have a more social friend, or acquaintance, have them be your safety net and help you get to know some new people.
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8. Give yourself a job.
If you want to branch out but you're not sure how, help the host with serving drinks, helping with food, or taking over as an unofficial DJ.
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9. Don't reach for your phone
Try to keep your phone out of your hand at the party -- only take it out sparingly. It will save your battery for when you're heading home and makes you more approachable for conversation.
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10. Try out some small talk.
Even if you're not into small conversations, an ice breaker can help a lot when easing into more interesting conversation.
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11. Set a minimum amount of time to stay.
Give the party a chance. Unless you have an emergency, don't leave early. Set a specific amount of time to stay, and if you're having a good time, stick around.
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12. Plan your goodbyes.
No one likes an Irish goodbye. Once you're ready to leave, make your rounds of goodbyes and exit graciously. Even if you need to make up a lame excuse for leaving, it's better than just just disappearing.